April 21, 2023: A Note from Marguerita Cheng, CFP® Pro — I invite you to tune in for this week’s episode of my podcast and video show, Margaritas with Marguerita, where for 15 minutes each Friday at Happy Hour, we start the weekend off right by learning from industry experts how to flex our financial muscles.
Meet our guest: Author Kanchan Bhaskar
Today’s Topic: Leaving — How to set yourself free from an abusive marriage
Rita asks Kanchan:
- Tell us about your heroic story of leaving your abusive marriage.
- What kept you from leaving sooner? And why is this often the worst question someone can ask a woman struggling with this decision?
- What is your advice to other women in this situation?
- What can others do to support a woman coping with abuse?
- You got divorced 20 years ago. What have you been doing these last two decades? And what are your plans for the future?
- How can people connect with you to discuss this topic with their friends and have you speak at their events?
About our guest: Raised by two loving parents in New Delhi, India, Kanchan Bhaskar has always been taught that marriage means companionship, tenderness, and mutual respect—so when she enters into an arranged marriage, this is the kind of partnership she anticipates with her new, seemingly wonderful, husband. But after they marry, she quickly discovers that his warmth is deceptive—that the man beneath the bright, charming façade is actually a narcissistic, alcoholic, and violent man.
Trapped in a nightmare, Kanchan pleads with her husband to seek help for his issues, but he refuses. Meanwhile, Indian law is not on her side, and as the years pass, she finds herself with three children to protect—three children she fears she will lose custody of if she leaves. Almost overnight, she finds herself transformed into a tigress who will do whatever it takes to protect her cubs, and she becomes determined to free them from their toxic father. But it’s not until many years later, when the family of five moves from India to the United States, that Kanchan is presented with a real opportunity to leave him—and she takes it.
Chronicling Kanchan’s gradual climb out of the abyss, little by little, day by day, Leaving is the empowering story of how—buoyed by her deep faith in a higher power and single-minded in her determination to protect her children best—she fought relentlessly to build a ramp toward freedom from her abuser. In this memoir, Kanchan clearly lays out the tools and methods she utilized in her pursuit of liberation—and reveals how belief in self and belief in the Universe can be not only weapons of escape but also beautiful foundations for a triumphant, purpose-driven life.
Learn more: kanchanbhaskar.com